OK, now for the REAL subject and it’s a little controversial. I’ve been going on Facebook less and less. I guess I really don’t get IT. If I want to talk to my “friends” I usually pick up the phone and gab, call me old school. I like the nuances you get from a live person while talking, especially from a real friend, then you can hear their sarcasm, their laughter, the intonation in a voice can make all the difference in the world in a conversation. That’s why I’m always capitalizing, and using … I do sometime chat with friends if I see them on-line while I’m posting but as for Facebook itself I just don’t do much there except send a link of this post, that’s my way of talking to everybody at once, it’s my conversation… When I thought I had the “hacker”, I deleted every “friend” I didn’t know first hand, or about 400, because that’s how you can get viruses, from other peoples “friends”, or “supposed friends” and such and from the games, like Farmville, or so the Geeks told me. At the time I had had enough of Farmville, I had turned into a farmville addict, with friends expressly for that purpose. Decided to adjust my lifestyle, and move on.
Now, having “friended” some friends from High School I am happy to have renewed some friendships and have had some nice conversations and have even met with a few people which was nice. Other friends I enjoy are people who are out of town who I met at relatives houses and the only place you can talk is on Facebook, with little comments, this I get. But what I find weird, and I’m sorry if I’m too honest, but I feel I have to say it here because it dismays me, confuses me, distresses me, I don’t know I can’t quite convey the words I want, the feeling I want. I just don’t get why we bother to “friend” people we haven’t seen in 25-30 years and then NOT actually connect and talk (write). I guess someone needs to make the first move, sometimes I try to comment on a picture of theirs or a comment of theirs, but if there is no reply why do we bother? I don’t know what the protocol is, if you ask them to be your friend, should you send them a message first, or should you wait for them to send you a message? I don’t know. But when no one does, I then do not really care to hear or see their day to day stuff if we’re never going to talk, so I slowly delete them from my friends, because they are not a friend if we do not communicate. I do not know what they are talking about if we don’t keep in touch and/or live close by and I’m sure they do not care about me either, so why bother to pose as friends? Do people just want to have a high number of “friends” so they look popular, do they want to impress people with what they do day to day, do they live vicariously through other peoples exploits? I don’t know. I don’t care. I don’t get it, I’m out. Maybe I have “THE” problem, or maybe I’m just honest and don’t want to play the same sophomoric games anymore. I have tried to “friend” a few people who I remember from the past and thought they would remember me, I don’t know if they don’t Facebook often so haven’t seen my friend request or don’t remember me, don’t want to be MY friend, but when they haven’t accepted my friend request after about 2 days I delete the request and move on. If we haven’t talked in 25 years, I think I can live without them and I’m sure they can live without my news and opinions… I’m ok with it, it’s their choice, no biggie.
My children do not understand why I choose to “ignore” some friend requests, but it is my prerogative. I find it empowering to make MY choice. Sometimes different parts of your life should not collide, and some people you just are “done” with. Or some people will spread word pollution on your page and maybe their opinions are so “way out” you just do not want to be inundated with it day after day, hour after hour. That’s what I was doing with Farmville, I feel sorry for my friends during that phase of my life!! Ha, Ha!!
But alas, it is your Facebook page and you should never feel forced into being someone’s friend, keeping someone as a friend, or be hurt if they don’t want to be YOUR friend. We’ve outgrown High School, haven’t we?!?