How do we deal with a loss of a friend? How do we endure the pain and loss? These questions have mystified humans since the beginning of time. One way we deal with death is pondering where the soul migrates after death, if we are religious or spiritual and believe there is an afterlife it may be a healing balm to our souls believing our loved ones will be safe and with us forever .
To remember our passed loved ones with happy memories is a wonderful way to think of them and a healing therapy. There is no sense in being sad, it helps no one. Of course you can’t help the normal course of sadness and grieving, of missing your family member, your life partner, but if you do believe in a life-ever-after, the dead people are actually the lucky ones, they’ve moved on to a better place, to a plane of no pain, to heaven with God and the angels. If anything, we should almost be jealous they’ve been chosen to move on!
Never forget them, always remember them, but life goes on and the living must go on with living with no guilt. Smiles and laughs will come back to you and should, your passed love one would not want you to grieve forever, just remember them fondly and with love!
How do we comfort a friend who has lost a life partner? I just don’t know. . . are there words enough? Probably not, can there be? I don’t know. . .I think just being there ready to listen . . . ready to comfort, ready to love. . .is about all I can do, I am here for you my dear friend when and if you need me, you call me anytime, anywhere . . .I love you dearly and feel your pain, I loved him, too!
Written by Evelyn Garone 3/2011