How do you explain children born of the same parents turning out so differently that it seems to defy explanation or understanding? When children come from the same womb, grow up in the same home, with the same upbringing how do they seem to turn out diametrically opposed?
To me it’s such a conundrum I’ll never understand. They are taught the same manners, but in some children they stick and are abided by while others eschew them totally. Memories seem to be remembered differently by each sibling according to their own life experiences, but usually there seems to be a common thread to most, though the most different or cold sibling seems to have the most dissimilar memory. It’s the strangest thing. Is it the birth placement in a family that makes a difference in our memories or the genes?
While some children seem to have a deep abiding love for the parents other children seem to be cold and withdrawn from the same parents. Why is that? Again, is it the genes or is it the personality of the person themselves? Is it something the parents did or didn’t do that all aren’t aware of that affects one child differently? Perhaps we’ll never know.
It’s a hard reality that one family member always seems to be a nasty wild card and a hurtful one when unleashed full force at times of trouble. To be aware of this personality trait and prepared for it never seems to be enough to protect your heart and mind from family. Though we’re always vulnerable to their wrath at times of stress we must remember to protect ourselves and remember we do not have to take nonsense, nor play their games just because they are family. We can choose to stay removed from juvenile one-up-manship or guilt trips and refuse to take part in drama.
Always be prepared…….perhaps you’ll be lucky, but I’ve learned leopards don’t change their spots!
© Evelyn Garone 6.9.14