Did you hear about the woman who walked around New York City for 10 hours with a hidden camera to document the obnoxious cat-calling women who are minding their own business just walking down the street get each and every day in big cities?
I’m not surprised. I lived in NYC about 25 yrs. ago and I remember the unwanted harassment I received on a daily basis. It could be brutal. I’m sure there are naysayers and most would probably be the same guys who do this on a regular basis thinking it’s a “nice” thing for women. Well, guess what, it’s NOT!
What man really thinks women want them making kissing noises at them? How about the guys that actually follow you? That’s increasingly creepy and scary. No “normal” woman seeks out nor enjoys unwanted attention like this each and every day just walking down the street, it just happens. Believe me, ask a woman, it’s disconcerting!
As a young woman I remember it made me blush, cringe and almost want to be invisible while walking down the street being harassed constantly, winter, spring, summer, fall. I once even had a guy give me his card, tell me he was a “photographer” and would love to take serious photos of me. (Yeah, okay….model material I’m NOT!) Needless to say, I thought about it, thought better of it, and threw the card out. Thank God I had a strong sense of self and didn’t fall for it, but how many young women might have hooked up with this guy hoping for her 15 minutes of fame?! God knows what could happen.
I’m not saying all men are like this, I’m just saying that men who are should think about what they’re really doing, which is dehumanizing women and to what end? Do they really think they’re gonna’ get lucky, get a phone number? Perhaps if they imagined their girlfriends, mothers, sisters or daughters being on the receiving end of these comments they might think twice?
I’m not a feminazi, believe me but the thought and sight of verbal harassment of this magnitude when the women was wearing jeans, a tee shirt and a back pack just walking around town is mind blowing. I’m not talking about a nod, smile or hello either, that would probably be acceptable by most women. We’re talking about actual men in our personal space talking smack. What the hell is up with that?
If you are a man who doesn’t do this, I and all women appreciate it and know you were probably raised right, and thank you for being gentlemen!
What do y’all think?
© Evelyn Garone 10.29.14